People only seem irrational and unpredictable until you understand what they are fundamentally committed to.

For example, if someone has a core commitment to feel free, they may find themselves sabotaging work oppor-
tunities in order to achieve that. If someone’s core commitment is to feel wanted, they could find themselves
in a series of relationships in which they have intense connections but refuse to make commitments out of fear
that the spark will “fade.” If someone’s core commitment is to be in control of their lives, they might have irratio-
nal anxiety about things that represent a loss of control. If someone’s core commitment is to be loved by others, they might pretend to be helpless in certain areas of life be-cause if they don’t need others, they might be left by them