“I still think that you’re... «Openly Straight»

“I still think that you’re overlooking something,” he said. “You say you have this great bond. But how can you, if he doesn’t know you?”
“Come on, Dad,” I said. “He knows me.”
“He does?” he asked.
I could see he didn’t understand that knowing a person is about more than knowing whom they fantasize about. That’s the small stuff, actually. Not the big stuff. The big stuff is lying next to a guy on the floor and locking eyes and having deep conversations about philosophy. The big stuff is letting a friend know your hopes and your fears and not having to make a joke about it. That’s what matters.