Лучшие книги Ланди Банкрофта

Он не хочет признавать, что делает тебе больно. Для него нормально повышать голос, оскорблять или применять силу. Он ни во что не ставит твое мнение. Он не остановится, пока ты сама не прекратишь это безумие.
Советы, изложенные здесь, помогут распознать абьюзера и вооружат вас инструментами самозащиты, физической или психологической, от агрессивных и контролирующих мужчин. А также позволят скорректировать негативное поведение партнера, если он готов меняться.

В этой книге консультант, спикер, инструктор и активист Ланди Бэнкрофт рассказывает матерям, как помочь детям восстановиться от последствий агрессии. Она рекомендована не только подвергшимся жестокому обращению матерям, но и их друзьям, родственникам или профессионалам, которые ищут возможность протянуть этим женщинам руку помощи. Используя случаи из практики, формат “вопрос-ответ” и выделенные ключевые моменты, Бэнкрофт заботливо, но твердо учит пострадавших матерей, какие действия им следует предпринять, чтобы помочь своим детям.
"Если ваш ребенок стал свидетелем жестокого обращения, эта книга для вас".
— Патриция Эванс, автор книги Teen Torment: Overcoming Verbal Abuse at Home and at School.
Если партнер меня обижает, может ли он при этом оставаться хорошим отцом?
Стоит ли оставаться с партнером ради детей?
Он озлобленный и контролирующий, но ни разу меня и пальцем не тронул. Нужно ли мне беспокоиться о детях?
Как поговорить с детьми об агрессии и помочь им восстановиться?
Я плохая мать?
Перечисленные выше вопросы не дают вам покоя каждый день? На самом деле, и вы, и ваши дети заслуживаете жить в доме, где никому не угрожает физическая и эмоциональная опасность.
Если кто-то — ваш муж, парень, отец ваших детей — проявляет агрессию, это также сказывается на детях. Будь то физическое насилие или "всего лишь" эмоциональное, нацелено оно на вас или на детей, которые его видят или слышат, — дети в вас нуждаются.

A mother and daughter disappear in the midst of a custody dispute, leaving behind indications that they left on purpose -- and that they didn't. A young journalism intern, Carrie Green, gets caught up in trying to find out what's happened to them.
She astounds her editor by developing a rapport with the father of the missing girl even though no one else can stand him.
Then she and her boyfriend infiltrate two opposing illegal networks, both of which seem to be connected to the case.
And suddenly it starts to dawn on the young reporter that she’s been believing all the wrong people...

The Joyous Recovery is a path back to yourself. In this new guide to emotional recovery, Lundy Bancroft explains where healing comes from and why current approaches aren't bringing us the changes we're hoping for. You'll hear some surprising insights, including:* why fighting to improve your attitudes and outlook never works for long* why your healing is not all up to you, and why "self-help" so often fails* why you sometimes start to feel worse when your life starts to go better* why we're avoiding the paths to healing that actually work the best* why, even in our times, we still don't talk about the most important issuesAnalyzing our difficulties is much easier than finding our way to deep healing. So The Joyous Recovery spends just one chapter looking at what's gone wrong, and devotes the other nineteen to explaining what to do about it. Here's just a quick look at what you'll learn:* how to form an effective healing partnership, the game-changer for healing* how to understand the cyclical nature of successful healing, and how to get those cycles turning* how to understand your body's natural plan to keep you emotionally well -- you have an emotional immune system, not just a physical one -- and how to work with it to propel your recovery* how to harness the power of opposites, bringing parts of ourselves together that we thought had to be at war with each other* how to draw upon the exciting power of the Peak Living Network, a peer-led healing support system that costs nothing to participate in* how to make healing a joyful and transforming experience, instead of having it feel like lots of hard work for small gainsThe Joyous Recovery is an approach to emotional healing unlike anything you've encountered before. And it works.Lundy Bancroft is the creator of the Peak Living Network. He has spe¬cialized in abuse and recovery for the past 30 years, including over 10 years leading weekend healing retreats. His book Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men is the largest-selling book in history on domestic violence, with over 300,000 copies in print. Lundy has written four other books and two plays, including the book When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Kids Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse and the play Forbidden to Protect. He is an avid baseball and hockey player, rock climber, and activist.

Even if you’ve read Why Does He Do That?, it may be hard to see the truth of what is happening to you. You may feel overwhelmed by confusion, loss, and fear, and find yourself looking away from the truth and falling back into traumatic patterns.

What you need is something that is there for you every day—to help you make a long series of little changes that will ultimately add up to a big one. Like a constant friend, this collection of meditations is a source of strength and reassurance designed to speak to women like you, women in relationships with angry and controlling men. It helps you to digest what is happening a piece at a time, so that you can gain clarity, safety, and freedom.

To learn to value and respect yourself—even when your partner makes it very clear that he does not—each day centers on one of seven themes designed to empower, encourage, and inspire you . . .
You will see the truth in your destructive relationship. You and your children will survive. And—with these encouragements—even tomorrow will be a better day than today.

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist Jac Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners.

Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:
- Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working;
- Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problemStop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the top priority;
- Prepare for life without their partner, even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.

Moving beyond the narrow clinical perspective sometimes applied to viewing the emotional and developmental risks to battered children, The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics, Second Edition offers a view that takes into account the complex ways in which a batterer's abusive and controlling behaviors are woven into the fabric of daily life. This book is a guide for therapists, child protective workers, family and juvenile court personnel, and other human service providers in addressing the complex impact that batterers―specifically, male batterers of a domestic partner when there are children in the household―have on family functioning. In addition to providing an understanding of batterers as parents and family members, the book also supplies clearly delineated approaches to such practice issues as assessing risk to children (including perpetrating incest), parenting issues in child custody and visitation evaluation, and impact on children's therapeutic process and family functioning in child protective practice.